Hello beautiful people, and a big happy Thursday! I cannot believe it’s halfway through January already – crazy!
We’ve all heard about the importance of mindset, EVERYONE is talking about it. So what am I going to do? I’m going to talk about it too! I want to share with you some of the most helpful things I’ve learnt for improving my mindset, in the hope that just one of those things might help you too!
I’ll be honest, growing up I have always struggled with my mindset. I’m generally a very positive person, I bounce, I strive for adventure, I laugh a lot, and I look for the good in each and every person and situation that life throws at me. But (and there’s a big but), I lack a hell of a lot of self-confidence, struggle to be proud of myself, and am known for putting myself down.
Over the past 6 (or so) months, this is something I have been trying to change. I have such a positive outlook on life, except when it comes to myself – and that holds me back massively! So I set about to change this. I still have a lot to practice, but learning about the importance of mindset and the little things we can do, has been a massive adventure for me!
‘Working on your mindset, is working on your personal weakness’
This was a good place to start for me. It was about identifying my weaknesses, and thinking about how I could strengthen these. We all have weaknesses, but with time and practice we can start to strengthen these bit by bit. It was here that I discovered my personal weaknesses that I mentioned just above. Mindset is about working on these weaknesses, striving to make them stronger, and progressing each and every day.
Mindset is more than reading a book, it’s reading, learning and making positive changes.
Books are a great starting point. It only takes a few minutes in a book store or online to find out that there are HUNDREDS of mindfulness books. My recommendation… go to a physical book store, have a flick through, and find one that really resonates with you. One of my personal favourites is The Miracle Morning, but this is a personal preference which is key to remember!
But its what you do after reading the book that really matters. You may find one, two or three things in the book that make you think or give you that light bulb moment that you’ve been waiting for, but acting on these moments is what is going to make that big difference.
The 5 second rule – A LIFECHANGER
I cannot for the life of me remember where I first heard this trick, but boy is it a good one! I like to overthink, A LOT. And this definitely leads to by inability to be decisive or to step outside of my comfort zone. So bring on the 5 second rule, which simply means counting down from 5 to 1 in your head (or out loud – it feels kind of liberating) and then doing that thing that you wanted to do, but didn’t have the courage to or was overthinking or was simply hesitant to do. You have to do it, before you get to 1. Send that email, take that opportunity, take that challenge, whatever it is!
Another use of the 5 second rule (that I LOVE) has meant that it has become part of my morning routine. When my alarm goes off in the morning I count down from 5, and have to be sat up before I get to 1. The energy that this gives me is crazy. You may think I’m slightly insane, but this WORKS. I feel so energised if I do this in the morning. None of that alarm snoozing!
Continuing on the ‘mornings’ topic, this is something that many people struggle with. For a lot of people, mornings are associated with alarms, tiredness, and going to work, and we’d all be lying if we didn’t admit to sometimes wanting to just turn off the alarm and go back to sleep.
But what if we thought of mornings as the start of a new day, and a chance to make a difference, try something new, and begin our day with positivity. Wake up each day with your full potential, knowing that you have the chance to be the best version of yourself.
What do I do in the morning? There are two key things.
- I tell myself that I’m proud of myself
This is a more recent thing I’ve been trying. As I said before, self-confidence is something that is a huge weakness of mine, so I have started telling myself that I’m proud of myself every single morning, and it has made a huge difference to my mindset. It has made me smile, every time. It sounds silly, and it sounds cringey, but it works. It really works. Every time I say it I smile, and I believe it, and I believe that I can achieve more that day!
2. Practice gratitude
I then think of what I’m grateful for, and I write three things down each morning. Three things that spring to mind that I’m grateful for, and this has huge power. It’s about focusing on what makes us happy, and what we have to be thankful for, rather than being overwhelmed by our challenges. Life is always going to have its challenges, sometimes way more than at other times, but thinking of what we are grateful for can help to bring just a little bit of light.
Step outside your comfort zone and do the things that you really don’t want to do.
This has been a big challenge for me in particular. I have always played it safe, doing what I know I can do and not reaching out, and avoiding things that I don’t feel brave enough to do. And this is still a challenge that I’m working on, but I’ve come on leaps and bounds. Last year, for example, I took on the challenge of confronting my fear of heights. I made a pledge to myself that if I wanted to do something but my fear of heights was holding me back, then I HAD to do it, no if’s no but’s. And guess what, I did it. In each city I visited I went to those tall buildings and those high viewing points. I may have been wobbly, but I did it. And that was the start of my comfort zone journey. My mind made me do, made me challenge myself, and made me stronger.
The opportunity is going to show up, and YOU need to be there to catch it with both hands.
What I want to say is that you should be ready to catch those opportunities that come up in life. No matter how big or how small an opportunity is, take it. Step out of your comfort zone, and grab it with both hands. It might just be the step you need to achieve even more than you already have.
Don’t let your mind put you down. Control it and strengthen it, and work on bringing positivity into your life at each chance you can. You can be amazing, you just have to tell yourself that. Nothing is impossible. Smile and laugh, and don’t give up on your dreams.